Why do we argue with the other person?
We “argue” to defend our point of view, and usually we make the other person “wrong” in the process. Arguing may get your point across, but arguing doesn’t work to solve your relationship problem. So, instead of arguing, do this instead: talk about how you feel about the issue, and state what you want and what you don’t want.
What’s the worst thing you can do during an argument?
“Whatever the unconscious motivations, this maneuver is unfair, covert bullying and cowardly. It reduces the other partner to rubble, emotionally.” If you’re feeling overwhelmed and need a timeout, that’s fine. But it’s better to voice that to your partner than to just bail.
What do you do in the middle of an argument?
2. You walk away mid-argument. Stonewalling — when a person completely shuts down or disengages in the middle of an argument without warning — makes your partner feel as though you’ve pulled the rug out from under them. The conflict is still unresolved and it leaves your partner alone, confused and even more frustrated.
What happens to your body during an argument?
During an argument, we’re often so focused on what we’re saying that we’re not paying attention to our non-verbal behaviors. “Feelings that are common in conflict ― such as anger, frustration, and emotional pain ― tend to come with big energy,” marriage and family therapist Lynsie Seely said.
We “argue” to defend our point of view, and usually we make the other person “wrong” in the process. Arguing may get your point across, but arguing doesn’t work to solve your relationship problem. So, instead of arguing, do this instead: talk about how you feel about the issue, and state what you want and what you don’t want.
“Whatever the unconscious motivations, this maneuver is unfair, covert bullying and cowardly. It reduces the other partner to rubble, emotionally.” If you’re feeling overwhelmed and need a timeout, that’s fine. But it’s better to voice that to your partner than to just bail.
2. You walk away mid-argument. Stonewalling — when a person completely shuts down or disengages in the middle of an argument without warning — makes your partner feel as though you’ve pulled the rug out from under them. The conflict is still unresolved and it leaves your partner alone, confused and even more frustrated.
During an argument, we’re often so focused on what we’re saying that we’re not paying attention to our non-verbal behaviors. “Feelings that are common in conflict ― such as anger, frustration, and emotional pain ― tend to come with big energy,” marriage and family therapist Lynsie Seely said.