Why do I resent my mom so much?
I don’t have anyone else in my life,… Mum never wanted to keep in touch with the extended family and after all I’m in a different country. That’s another thing I find that I resent Mum for, the fact that I have no other person to lean on family wise, she’s cut ties with them all apart from a couple that I don’t have any kind of relationship with.
Do you ever wonder about your biological mother?
It was not something I thought about regularly and I never wondered about my biological mother. My parents were the people raising me, not the people who gave birth to me. It was just a fact. But my mom always thought I was curious and would ask me regularly about it.
What did my mom do when I was at home?
When I am at home, I can choose to do what I want without being judged and without any enjoyment or relaxation spoiled. Looking back, I can see that for years my mind has been full of her demands, wants and toxic behaviour. There was no room for my own basic needs, never mind any wants, which might enrich my life.
Where did my mother spend most of her time?
My grandparents (my father’s parents) gave me my first bottle in the hospital after I was born, and I lived with them from the very beginning. During the first two weeks of my life, my mother came to my grandparents house to spend time with me, but then suddenly disappeared leaving only a letter.
How are daughters affected by unloving mothers?
It’s true enough that all daughters of unloving and unattuned mothers have common experiences. The lack of maternal warmth and validation warps their sense of self, makes them lack confidence in or be wary of close emotional connection, and shapes them in ways that are both seen and unseen. What are they missing?
What makes a healthy mother-daughter relationship healthy?
A healthy and attuned maternal relationship offers security and freedom to roam at once—the infant is released from her mother’s arms to crawl, the adolescent counseled but listened to and respected—and this pattern does not. That’s all missing in the enmeshed relationship. 5. Combative
How does lack of validation affect a mother?
The lack of maternal warmth and validation warps their sense of self, makes them lack confidence in or be wary of close emotional connection, and shapes them in ways that are both seen and unseen. What are they missing?
Why does a daughter need to be close to her mother?
Human offspring are hardwired to need and seek proximity to their mothers, and therein lies the problem: the daughter’s need for her mother’s attention and love isn’t diminished by the mother’s dismissal.