Is stonewalling grounds for divorce?
Stonewalling may seem like an easy way out of an argument, but do it enough and it’s bound to cause problems. In fact, according to renowned researcher John Gottman, routine stonewalling is one of the biggest predictors of divorce.
What to do if your spouse threatens to split up?
“If it’s a threat and not a carefully thought-out decision, it can move your marriage down a road you might not be ready to take,” she said. “If you don’t really want to split up, don’t say you do!
When do you Know Your Marriage is in trouble?
Granted, in some marriages, one spouse may stay home while the other works, or one spouse may have more flexibility when it comes to taking care of household duties…but when there is clearly an unequal distribution of house work or how to do it or to what level a house should be cleaned or function, you’ve got an issue.
What do you say to a controlling spouse?
We often hear them say things such as: I thought I was helping by pointing out things she could do better. I admit that I can be a little harsh in the way I say things, but that’s just the way I am. He knew that when he married me. I never meant to make him feel bad about himself.
What should you do if your spouse is manipulating you?
Even in the case of real wrongdoing in a marriage, there’s very little point in “punishing” your spouse. Either you deal with the issue, forgive and move on, or you choose not to forgive and move out—but what you shouldn’t do is remain in the relationship while lording the wrongdoing over the partner as a form of power.
“If it’s a threat and not a carefully thought-out decision, it can move your marriage down a road you might not be ready to take,” she said. “If you don’t really want to split up, don’t say you do!
Why do some people have problems with their spouse?
Other reasons included personal problems of my spouse (37 percent), not getting enough attention (34 percent), my spouse’s personal habits (29 percent), and sexual problems (24 percent).
If your marriage has devolved to the point that every misstep or mistake gets called out as an example of your larger flaws — that is “kitchen-sinking” — you are deep in negative territory, especially if almost every sentence out of your mouth or your spouse’s begins with the words, “You always” or “You never.”
How to deal with your partner’s marriage problems?
Respond more often with agreement in response to things your partner says that in the past you might have answered with, “But…” Listening is loving—especially when you are listening to take in information, not to show what’s wrong with what your partner says or to show that you know more. Help out more.